I’m reading the book Hold On, But Don’t Hold Still by Kristina Kuzmic which holds so much wisdom and positive messages for parents. This one passage in her books talks about her struggles to get it all right, and how she has “failed as a mother many times.” Haven’t we all? I learned in my healing school that there is no way NOT to mess up your children.
I think sometimes I have tossed out an “I’m sorry” as a reflex, so part of the learning for me when reading her book is the “I’m sorry” has to come from a genuine place. Here is what else she wrote:
“I am sorry” creates trust.
“I am sorry” builds respect.
“I am sorry” promotes humility.
“I am sorry” shows everyone makes mistakes.
“I am sorry” teaches that admitting you’re wrong isn’t a sign of weakness.
And if we’re being honest, a consistent, genuine “I love you” can’t exist without a consistent, genuine “I am sorry.”
That last part! So good. Part of admitting you are wrong, and that you have hurt someone is what the world needs. Take ownership of your part! You can’t get so locked down in your belief systems that only one way exists. Kristina was talking about her relationship with her children, but I see this concept on a global scale.
I’m hoping the next few months we take a moment and pause to breathe. Life has thrown all of us a curve ball called Covid-19. Let’s spend more time in conversation, saying I love you more often but also offering up a genuine sorry when we are wrong.